Emotional Intelligence–What I Learned this Week

We’d all readily associate the ability to remain stoic or “emotionless” to nobility or being strong. Being able to not “catch feelings” is some sort of goal to attain today by our generation.

Emotional intelligence has been defined as “the capacity to be aware of, control, and express one’s emotions, and to handle interpersonal relationships judiciously and empathetically” and that would require one’s ability to feel. It’s okay to feel.

Emotional Intelligence isn’t how well you can hold in your cry or not feel angry. High emotional IQ also is not how apathetic you can make yourself appear to be. It is the ability to respond properly to how something made you feel.

It’s okay to cry.

It’s okay to be angry.

It’s not okay to respond to hurt by breaking things or yelling at your loved ones or cursing people out and making statuses about them on Facebook (Matthew 18:15 “If your brother sins against you, go and tell him his fault, between you and him alone…”).  God gave us emotions and feelings and how we feel about things is apart of who we are. It’s up to us to be smart and strong enough to respond accordingly and have the proper reactions.

Emotions are powerful and we have them. Emotions are GOOD. Emotions are beautiful. They drive us and make us who we are. We all aren’t going to feel the same things. We all can learn how to be intentional in how we respond to our emotions. There’s nothing wrong with that girl who is “too sensitive” or even that super passionate person in your life.

God can give us the level of strength and peace it takes to not overreact to things. He can give us the discipline and humility it takes to take the high road and respond with class and grace even in the most heated situations. He can give us that power.  <3 <3


  1. Davina

    August 3, 2017 at 3:15 pm

    Emotional intelligence definitely takes some practice because it can’t happen over night. I used to be the overly sensitive girl who couldn’t handle situations due to it. I feel like it wasn’t until like almost mid 20’s that I began to realize that we have to divide our emotions from our logic. We tend to make decisions based on our feelings. I agree that our generation has that ‘catching feelings’ notion and it may be reactions to frequent changes in emotions without knowing how to separate. Emotions are ever changing and it’s that growth of separating our feelings in efforts of making logical decisions. It’s challenging, but well worth it for our growth. Interesting thought, stimulated reflection over here : ).
    Be blessed love,

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